FemDom is an often distorted concept.
Much of mainstream BDSM’s depiction is actually MaleDom fetishism disguised as the woman in control. This is especially true in porn. It’s so pervasive that some people out there honestly don’t seem to know the difference.
Maybe you’re one of those who knows this. You can tell when you play with someone who isn’t actually Dominant. It all seems unbelievable. Contrived. And you’re left feeling a little let down. Like you want to feel truly dominated. Real control.
This requires an understanding and mastery of power.
Does this describe me?
Ask some of my subs:
“The level of control you exerted over me was great! … I feel like a broke through to a new level of submission/power exchange. It was incredible!!!”
“Thank You for letting me experience one of the few true power-exchange scenes i’ve had ever“
“in one session she got me so “high” on her power over me I actually did faint for about 10 seconds.Talk about POWER!! … If you’ve been looking for a REAL session and want to submit you’ve found the right Mistress“
“Mistress Tissa is absolutely incredible, exemplifying the title of Professional Domme. … Our session was so fluid, natural, and powerful that I’m still shuddering from the crescendo.“
“When I am with Her, I know I am with a genuinely dominant, deliciously kinky and stunningly beautiful woman who totally controls my mind and body during the time we spend together”
“The way You control mind body and spirit is uncanny. You truly are a Sorceress. i thoroughly enjoyed everything we did, but being under the power of Your gaze would have been worth the trip by itself.“
“I have had sessions with many different Dommes, but none as beautiful, powerful, and controlling as Mistress Tissa.“
“You are an amazing Mistress. … You are the most powerful woman i have ever met.“
“If you want authentic domination and you are submissive RUN to her Temenos and have your brain rewired.When I am with her I can feel her power being transferred onto me”
“Your grace, power, and presence captivated me …. I can’t wait to see you again.”
Come, give yourself to me and feel my power.
Your theory is absolutely on target. The best sessions for me are those that create powerful chemistry between myself and the Domme. When that happens, the session takes on a life of its own, creating an intense energy that both can feed off of and enjoy. That chemistry can’t be faked, and it can’t be created when the Domme is not genuinely dominant. It’s an incredible experience when that chemistry is right and the energy is flowing. When it’s not, it’s a long 2 or 3 hours spent with someone who knows they are just faking it.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this. The chemistry that comes from a genuine power exchange applies to us Dommes as well: when I have someone who is either genuinely submissive or can at least become truly submissive for the time we’re together, it makes for a much more enjoyable session for me.