BDSMlog Subscriptions and Registrations

There are 3 options with my blog:

  1. Subscribe to my BDSMlog email list
  2. Register as a free member
  3. Pay for an Exclusive membership


This is an email list that notifies subscribers when I post. An email is sent once a day, around 6AM EST, and only on the days I make at least one post. This means if I make more than one post in a given 24-hour period the notification for all of them will be sent in that single email. You will not receive more than one email per day.

To subscribe:

In the column to the right of this entry you will see “By subscribing you confirm…” followed by a box to enter your email. (If you’re on a mobile phone, it may be at the bottom of the page.) Enter in your email and click “subscribe me”. You will be sent an email to confirm your subscription. Be sure to check your spam folder as it may be there. (If it is, be sure to tell your mail host is it NOT spam so that it doesn’t happen again.)

Subscribing is NOT the same as registering. If you want to see the posts for members, leave comments, and talk with me or other members, you need to register by creating a user name and password. See option 2 below.


This allows you to view members-only posts, leave comments, and interact with me and other members.

To register as a Basic member:

Go to the top of this page and hover over “Join BDSMlog”. You will see two options: BDSMlog Member and BDSMlog Exclusive. Select BDSMlog Member and follow the directions. You will be sent an email to confirm your registration. Once you have, you will be able to log in and receive membership privileges.

NOTE: Being a basic member does not grant you access to the Exclusive member content. To do this see option 3.


The premise is similar to OnlyFans except it’s my site and I have total control over everything (laughs in Domme). Subscribers have access to additional photos, additional and longer BDSM videos, educational material, vlog type entries about various topics, offers only to subscribers, and more. Most of this is currently only available here.

NOTE: To become an Exclusive member you need to be vetted. If you are not I’m sorry but you will be unable to have an Exclusive membership at this time.

What does “vetted” mean? You have to be:

  • A client in good standing (this does not mean you have to be coming to me for sessions at this time)
  • Someone from the community I trust, such as another Dominant, submissive, leader, acquaintance, etc
  • A personal friend

To register as an Exclusive member:

A. Go to the top of this page and hover over “Join BDSMlog”. You will see two options: BDSMlog Member and BDSMlog Exclusive. Select BDSMlog Exclusive and follow the directions.

B. Once you confirm your registration I will set up a monthly bill through my private payment link using the email address you used to register*. This will generate an invoice. When it’s received, pay it** and I will add you as an Exclusive member.

*If you would prefer not to have the invoice go to the address you registered with, please email me with the one you’d like me to use. If your email address is not discreet, such as “” or “”, please send me an email that’s more “vanilla” so we both don’t get flagged by the payment processor.

** If you would rather not have an electronic transaction you can bring it when you come to see me for a session. Please let me know if you have included it in with your tribute so I don’t mistakenly think it’s a tip or something. (If you need another option, email me.)

You can pre-pay months at any point. If you do not wish to renew simply decline the invoice.

IMPORTANT: When paying your invoice, do not add any notes of any kind. If you don’t think I will recognize you from the account you use or you have any question, send me an email. FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS PERVERTED, DO NOT MENTION ANYTHING SEXY/KINKY WITH YOUR PAYMENT. SEND ME A PRIVATE EMAIL.


Q: Mistress, why are you asking for tribute for your blog?

A: Since I started this blog in 2015, I’ve posted a lot of content. This includes many articles, photos, and an increasing number of videos. Aside from the work involved in this, visual files — namely video — are large and can quickly eat up the space on a server. When I reach the max space allotted to me I’ll either start having to delete files or pay for a more expensive web package to hold all my content. I’m at that point where I’m almost maxed. Since I prefer to keep everything available for people to enjoy, I decided to help offset these increasing costs by offering additional, better content for a small tribute.

Q: Mistress, why should I register for an Exclusive membership?

A: When you register for an Exclusive membership, you’re helping support my doing my own independent version of sites like “Only Fans”. The benefit of not using those sites is that we’re exempt from their censorship, taking a cut of my tribute, and shady business practices. Of course, you’re also getting photos I’m not posting anywhere else, additional and longer videos not available to free members, more articles, educational material, exclusive offers, and more.

Q: Mistress, I don’t believe in paying for content, so why should I?

A: Then don’t.

Q: Mistress, can I pay for more than one month at a time?

A: Yes. I offer discounts if you pre-pay a certain number of months. For 1-4 months in advance it’s $10 per month, so there is no discount. At 5 months the cost is $50 which is the same if you pre-pay for 6 months because you receive one month free. If you pay 12 months in advance it’s $100 and you receive two months free). Just let me know if you would like to do this.

Q: Mistress, what if I can’t use your private payment method/pay digitally?

A: You can add the subscription cost in with your tribute if you come for sessions with me. If you’re coming monthly you can add $10, if every other month add $20, etc. You can pre-pay months as well. If this doesn’t work let me know and I’ll give you some other options.

Q: Mistress, I subscribed, but can’t see some of your entries and cannot comment on any of them. Why not?

A: Subscribing only adds you to my email list that lets you know I post. If you want to view the BDSMlog Member posts and comment and interact with me you need to register, which asks you to create a user name and password, in order to do so. This is free. Go to the top of the page and hover over “Join BDSMlog”, select BDSMlog Member, and follow the directions. You will receive an email asking you confirm your registration. Once you do you will be able to log in and receive member privileges.

Q: Mistress, I registered by creating a user name and password but am not receiving notifications of your posts. Whats the problem?

A: Registration does not automatically assume you want email notifications of my posts. If you would like that you need to subscribe to the email list. Follow option 1 above to do so.

Q: Mistress, why do I have to register if your posts are free to see?

A: There are bots who are programmed to prowl around on the internet and steal things, like photos and video. This is called “scraping”. I see these bots hit my site every day. Some of them have sat on my site and looked through pages and pages, seeing what they can download. If I create a barrier between the bot and my content, such as requiring that you be logged in to see it, I eliminate this issue.

Q: Mistress, why do you have to know me for me to become an Exclusive member?

A: Plagiarism and piracy are serious and pervasive issues for people who create digital works, like articles, photos, and video. This is to (hopefully) eliminate this issue by allowing only those I trust to have access to it. I’d rather have 2 subscribers who I don’t think would try steal my work than 20 who might.

More questions? You can ask in comments. 🙂

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